Oh, and if you have a problem with Catelyn Stark, you probably won't like anything I write.
Anonymous asked: first time together & pretending to be married fics :)
Well, I’ve written Ned’s and Cat’s first time together 3 times—interestingly always in a modern AU (well, one of those was a scene in my WWII fic, “Ghosts of War” but that’s still a good bit more modern than anything in Westeros!!) I wrote a short piece that’s in my “Tales of Winterfell and Riverrun” collection on AO3 called “I Want You” in response to a ‘secretly a virgin’ prompt, and then there’s “What Exactly Are We Doing?” which is the second installment in my modern AU series. Maybe some day, I’ll do something with their actual wedding night in Riverrun, but that won’t be at all romantic or passionate.
In general, I like this trope because it’s about beginnings and possibilities, and I’ve read several (not just Ned/Cat—they’re pretty much all I write, but I do READ other things!) which I’ve enjoyed very much—both about good and not-so-good experiences. I guess my biggest pet peeve with this particular trope is when authors put two completely inexperienced characters together and have them experience perfect, mind-blowing sex without any awkwardness because um, no. It just doesn’t happen like that.
I’ve never written a “pretending to be married” fic, but I’ve read and enjoyed some. It does offer a variety of plot possibilities, and I wouldn’t hesitate to write one if something really clever struck me. :)
Finally finished with a ridiculously long and difficult workday. Heading to meet my husband and sons for dinner and just realized I’ve eaten nothing today except 2 mini KitKat bars and a Hershey Kiss. One glass of wine will have me loopy if I don’t eat something much more substantial!
Some days I am frustrated beyond belief by the way so many parents treat their children as little more than possessions, acting as if they “belong” to them the same way a car or a television or a pair of shoes does.
Children are people!!! From the moment they enter this world, they belong to themselves. They need you, they depend on you, and given any encouragement at all, they will love you, but you cannot mold them like clay!! They are people. They are separate from you.
Their dreams may not be your dreams. Their plans may not be your plans. They do not exist to be your redemption, your success, or your emotional gratification. They aren’t your “second chance” at your life. They are their own first and only chances. Let them take that.
Love them. Nurture them. By all means help them learn right from wrong, and compassion, and responsibility. Teach them all you possibly can—but accept that not every lesson will stick. Accept that they will learn from others along the way as well. They will make choices, and, they will face the consequences of those choices. That is their right as people!
Protect them while they are small and fragile. That is your job. But do not imprison them when they try to take their first steps away from you. Letting them go is part of your job, too. Don’t forget that part.
Our children, these people we invest so much of our hearts in, do grow up. They do not belong to us. Eventually, parents, it’s time to love them enough to get out of their way. This doesn’t mean getting out of their lives—merely recognizing that their lives do belong to them, and loving them enough to accept the people they are and cheer them on in their dreams—not the ones we’ve wished for them perhaps, but the ones they’ve chosen themselves.
Oh good lord. Just made the mistake of looking at the statistics page on AO3 and learning that “Stay” has put me over a million words written altogether. I need to stop. Seriously.
Shall that be your next modern AU? LOL XD
NO!!!! Although, I do confess I immediately conjured up in my ridiculous brain several scenarios as to why the Starks would be attending the Oscars in the first place as I thought about the answer to olafsmee’s question. It’s a disease with me, I tell you!
I need a 12 Step program.
Yes!!! My Number Two Son passed his driving test!! So guess who’s actually sleeping in tomorrow on her off day instead of driving kids to school? XD XD
olafsmee replied to your post “Normal people do not write 6 chapter fics in 4 days—even if they are…”
What would Ned and Cat wear to the Oscars?
Well, Catelyn would definitely go for simple elegance—nothing big and poofy,or with big bows, or see through, or covered with shiny objects. She’d choose a gown with classic lines which flattered her figure without being being super-revealing (she wouldn’t want Ned growling at people all night!), likely in a lovely shade of blue that compliments her eyes. She’d consider an elegant updo, but would end up wearing her hair down because Ned likes it that way.
Ned, God bless him, would fully intend to wear his 10 year old tux because it still fits, it hasn’t been worn THAT often, and he figures no one will be looking at him while he’s standing beside Cat, anyway. Catelyn, however knows her husband well enough to suspect this is his plan so she will demand a new tux be purchased. He’ll want the plainest, least ostentatious tux available—basic formal black, of course—but since she’ll insist on excellent quality material and having it tailored to fit him perfectly, he’ll look quite good, and the two of them will make a striking couple! :D